Positive thinking – is it always a good thing? (part 3/4)

Last week I looked at the benefits of being ‘selfish’ but how does this relate back to what I said at the beginning about Positive Thinking?

To me it’s about being open and honest with ourselves and – where it’s appropriate – with those around us.  If you’re having a challenging day, admit it!  Don’t just try to put on a brave face if inside you feel like crying or tearing your hair out.  Instead, explore what you’re feeling and what it’s telling you.  An uncomfortable feeling means that something in your actions or your thoughts is not being true to your deepest self.  Is there a need there that you’ve been ignoring?  How could you do things differently so that you can address the need?

Looking at things this way means that you can take responsibility for your own feelings, and also for addressing them from your own power and wisdom.  Your body really does know what it needs, and you can access this by learning how to listen to the signals that it gives you.

This kind of ‘selfishness’ means that we no longer need to use behaviours to try to get others to meet our needs.  Instead we can take care of ourselves and give permission to others to be ‘selfish’ in their turn.  The wonderful paradox is that we all then have more capacity for unconditional love and support for those around us!

When we can view things from this open, honest, ‘selfish’ perspective then we can objectively look at our thoughts and where they’re coming from.  We can also have a deeper understanding of how they influence our interpretation of events and shape our beliefs.  With this awareness we can explore our thoughts to see which ones serve us, and how we can build on those, and which ones do not serve us.  Becoming aware of the unhelpful ones means that we can start to, gently, interrupt the negative pattern by looking for a thought that makes us feel better and practising that instead.

 

If you’d like to talk about anything that I’ve raised here, please get in touch:

            email:              robyn@equenergy.com

            mobile:           07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(You can read the full article here.)

 

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Positive thinking – is it always a good thing? (part 2/4)

In last week’s post I started looking at why positive thinking alone might not be enough.

Instead, I think the answer lies in becoming more aware of:

  • our thoughts and self-talk
  • the impact of what we listen to / read / watch
  • the influence of those we spend our time with
  • the effect that all of these have on our lives

Many of us are now paying more attention to our diet: reading labels, researching ingredients and finding ways to eat more healthily, in order to stay well.  Many also try ‘detoxing’ and ‘cleansing’.  This can bring great benefits but I believe that we need to look at the wider picture.

Changing what we put into our bodies is a good start but we also need to look at the environment in which we live:

  • is it healthy?
  • does it make you happy?

            Or:

  • do you dread going in to work each day?
  • at the end of the day are you exhausted / stressed / anxious / irritable / frustrated? 

            Remember:

Treat yourself like the beautiful flower that you are.

And if you’re worried that I’m encouraging you to be selfish… I am!  It’s like that thing they always say in the pre-flight safety message:

 

In fact, if we are not listening to – and providing for – our own needs how can we:

  1. expect anyone else to do this for us?
  2. have anything to give to anyone else?

 

On the other hand…

If we do take care of our own needs, and do what makes us happy, we will have so much to give!

In next week’s post I’ll look at how this relates to what I said at the beginning about Positive Thinking.

 

If you’d like to talk about anything that I’ve raised here, please get in touch:

            email:              robyn@equenergy.com

            mobile:           07980 669303

 

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(You can read the full article here.)