Positive thinking – is it always a good thing? (part 3/4)

Last week I looked at the benefits of being ‘selfish’ but how does this relate back to what I said at the beginning about Positive Thinking?

To me it’s about being open and honest with ourselves and – where it’s appropriate – with those around us.  If you’re having a challenging day, admit it!  Don’t just try to put on a brave face if inside you feel like crying or tearing your hair out.  Instead, explore what you’re feeling and what it’s telling you.  An uncomfortable feeling means that something in your actions or your thoughts is not being true to your deepest self.  Is there a need there that you’ve been ignoring?  How could you do things differently so that you can address the need?

Looking at things this way means that you can take responsibility for your own feelings, and also for addressing them from your own power and wisdom.  Your body really does know what it needs, and you can access this by learning how to listen to the signals that it gives you.

This kind of ‘selfishness’ means that we no longer need to use behaviours to try to get others to meet our needs.  Instead we can take care of ourselves and give permission to others to be ‘selfish’ in their turn.  The wonderful paradox is that we all then have more capacity for unconditional love and support for those around us!

When we can view things from this open, honest, ‘selfish’ perspective then we can objectively look at our thoughts and where they’re coming from.  We can also have a deeper understanding of how they influence our interpretation of events and shape our beliefs.  With this awareness we can explore our thoughts to see which ones serve us, and how we can build on those, and which ones do not serve us.  Becoming aware of the unhelpful ones means that we can start to, gently, interrupt the negative pattern by looking for a thought that makes us feel better and practising that instead.

 

If you’d like to talk about anything that I’ve raised here, please get in touch:

            email:              robyn@equenergy.com

            mobile:           07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(You can read the full article here.)

 

Positive thinking – is it always a good thing? (part 2/4)

In last week’s post I started looking at why positive thinking alone might not be enough.

Instead, I think the answer lies in becoming more aware of:

  • our thoughts and self-talk
  • the impact of what we listen to / read / watch
  • the influence of those we spend our time with
  • the effect that all of these have on our lives

Many of us are now paying more attention to our diet: reading labels, researching ingredients and finding ways to eat more healthily, in order to stay well.  Many also try ‘detoxing’ and ‘cleansing’.  This can bring great benefits but I believe that we need to look at the wider picture.

Changing what we put into our bodies is a good start but we also need to look at the environment in which we live:

  • is it healthy?
  • does it make you happy?

            Or:

  • do you dread going in to work each day?
  • at the end of the day are you exhausted / stressed / anxious / irritable / frustrated? 

            Remember:

Treat yourself like the beautiful flower that you are.

And if you’re worried that I’m encouraging you to be selfish… I am!  It’s like that thing they always say in the pre-flight safety message:

 

In fact, if we are not listening to – and providing for – our own needs how can we:

  1. expect anyone else to do this for us?
  2. have anything to give to anyone else?

 

On the other hand…

If we do take care of our own needs, and do what makes us happy, we will have so much to give!

In next week’s post I’ll look at how this relates to what I said at the beginning about Positive Thinking.

 

If you’d like to talk about anything that I’ve raised here, please get in touch:

            email:              robyn@equenergy.com

            mobile:           07980 669303

 

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(You can read the full article here.)

 

A META-Health example – sinusitis (part 2)

Last week I described a ‘stinking’ situation where I was felt intense jealousy.  For me this was unexpected, dramatic, isolating and I had no coping strategy (a UDIN or Trauma Conflict (2).  This put me into stress (3) resulting in a decrease in my sense of smell.  How did this go on to become sinusitis?

I recognised that this jealousy was a response coming from fear and a sense of ‘lack’ within me, rather than that the other person didn’t deserve their good fortune.  I knew that it was time for me to ‘walk my talk’ and so I did some energy work around what I was feeling and was able to shift my perspective to one of being able to celebrate the other person’s success.  I was also able to feel gratitude that we live in an abundant Universe, meaning that this person’s success does not mean that I have lost out.  On the contrary, it proves that what I am aiming for is possible.

This shift (4) allowed me to move into the regeneration phase (5,6 & 7) where my body needed to undo the changes it had made in the stress phase.  In the ‘exudative’ phase (5) it needed to clear out all the old cells that had been discarded to reduce my sense of smell.  My symptoms were pain in my sinuses due to an intense swelling and ulceration of the mucosa, along with a runny nose.  In my case the issue also related to my sense of ‘territory’ and so my Kidney Collecting Tubules were also affected, creating a ‘syndrome’ and resulting in sinusitis.

The Healing Peak (6) for this was sneezing which was then followed by the ‘restitutive’ (7) phase when the ulcers heal and the body returns to balance and good health (8).

If you would like to know more about how META-Health could help you find the root cause behind a dis-ease so that this can then be cleared allowing the body to return to better health, please contact me:

email:              robyn@equenergy.com

mobile:           07980 669303

Skype:             by appointment only to ensure that I am in the office and available to take your call.  Please contact me to arrange a date and time

 

(You can read the full article here)

A META-Health example – sinusitis (part 1)

As a further example of using META-Health to understand what’s going on in the body, I’ll share with you another personal story.

I recently experienced an episode of sinusitis and it didn’t take me long to get to the bottom of what was going on!  My inner dialogue and vocabulary gave it away immediately, but I will start by looking at the tissue involved and working from there.

In this example, the relevant tissue is the sinus mucosa, the mucus secreting cells lining my sinuses.  The brain relay for this tissue is the cerebral cortex so the themes are smelling (social), evaluation, recognition, or a “stinking” conflict.

The emotions behind issues here are around uncertainty or disgust, with thoughts such as:

  • This stinks.
  • I can’t bear to smell this situation anymore.
  • Something is getting strongly on my nerves.

The META-meaning is therefore:

  • My nose provides me with all the air and information I need.
  • When I don’t like what I smell, I can change it or create a distance.

I realised that I had been feeling jealous of someone and part of me was saying, “This isn’t fair – it stinks“.  This was my UDIN – a situation which for me was:

  • Unexpected
  • Dramatic
  • Isolating
  • and I had No Coping Strategy

which pushed me into the stress phase.  Here my body didn’t want to face (smell) the (stinking) situation and so it started to reduce the cells in my sinuses so that this sense would be less effective.

At this point I didn’t have any symptoms of ill health.  My sense of smell would have been reduced but I was barely aware of it.

In next week’s post, I’ll look at why I started to get symptoms and how my body then went on to get well.

If you would like to know more about how META-Health could help you find the root cause behind a dis-ease so that this can then be cleared allowing the body to return to better health, please contact me:

email:              robyn@equenergy.com

mobile:           07980 669303

Skype:             by appointment only to ensure that I am in the office and available to take your call.  Please contact me to arrange a  date and time

 

(You can read the full article here)

What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 5)

So, having looked at the process of META-Health, and a personal example from my own life, how can this help you in your healing journey?

My first step in working with a client is to ask for their ‘timeline’.  This is basically a chronological account of all the Significant Emotional Events in their life.  I personally like people to write this covering all the way from birth onwards as it can help me to detect repeating patterns and get a sense of the person, but in any case the timeline should go back to at least 3 years before symptoms appear.  I also need to know the person’s medical diagnosis, if they have one, and a list of any medications they’re taking, or have taken, for the issue.  It is also useful to know if they’ve tried other interventions and how helpful – or not – these were.

Once I know which tissue is affected I can work out which brain relay this relates to.  From this I can tell which stage they are at in the healing process:

It is then possible to work back to find the initial conflict (2).

Writing the timeline in itself can be very healing.  As one client said to me, it was amazing to put her life story down on paper and see it all in one place for the first time.  This was a kind of affirmation for her that she had, in fact, dealt with a lot in her life and that she was actually stronger than she had realised.  It can also be a very cathartic process to put down, in black and white, things that you might have been bottling up inside, or trying to push to the back of your mind.  This process helps you to look at things and to acknowledge them so that you can then start to process them in order to let go and to move on.

I often get the feeling that, in our society, we are encouraged to ‘move on’ before we’re ready.  As I said earlier, trauma is subjective, so other people might not appreciate the impact that an event has had on a person.  They might, with the best of intentions, want to encourage the person to ‘put it all behind them’ or to ‘think positively’ but this is not possible until the person has finished processing what happened.  Or perhaps it’s our own inner voice that is encouraging us to push everything under the carpet and carry on as if nothing has happened.  However, if we don’t listen to our inner needs, they will just start to get louder in order to be heard!

META-Health teaches great self compassion and understanding.  We can truly begin to see that we are doing the best we can with the resources available to us in a given situation.  Also, our bodies don’t make mistakes.  If we’re experiencing symptoms or discomfort, it’s just our body trying to let us know that something isn’t right, but if we listen and make some changes – meet the needs that are currently unmet – then the body will find its way back to balance and wellbeing again.

So, having identified the trauma, or ‘UDIN’, what next?  As part of a consultation I will look at all the layers of a the client’s life: physical, emotional, social and spiritual.  I will also consider their characteristics: do they tend to be primarily a visual, auditory or kinaesthetic person, for example.  Taking these things into consideration I then put together a suggested plan of action, to discuss with the client, to help them create the healthier, happier life they dream of.

This plan can draw on a range of different therapies depending on what is most appropriate for the person in their particular situation.  I personally offer a variety of energy therapies including Reiki / Energy Healing, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT / sometimes referred to as ‘tapping’) along with some nutrition, lifestyle and relaxation techniques and tips.  I am very happy to offer these as part of a client’s action plan and for them to continue to work with me if they choose.

In addition I have a wide network of colleagues offering other complementary holistic therapies that we can draw upon to create a full and rounded wellbeing package.

The steps to be taken and the time required to create a new and healthier life will depend on the person, their condition, the circumstances in which they find themselves and their level of commitment, however it doesn’t need to be ‘hard work’ and the journey is in itself something to enjoy and to learn from.  It is worth remembering that it has taken time for your body to get into dis-ease and it will take time to get back to wellbeing but at each step along the way you will see an improvement.  This process can also result in lasting change and a whole new perspective, helping you to better deal with any issues that you face in the future.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)

What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 4)

Previously I talked about my personal experience of how a trauma created digestive dis-ease in the form of IBS and food intolerances.

Another common feature with fears around survival are that the body retains water.  Its reasoning is that alone it is more difficult to find this life-sustaining resource and so it must hold on to as much as it can until it is reunited with the tribe.  When the body again feels it is safe it can release the water.  At its peak (6) this is often experienced as a migraine, and this is what happened for me.  It can also mean that you pee more than normal as your body pushes out the excess water.

As I mentioned in my last post, I was repeatedly being retriggered as contact with my Dad did not go smoothly and it often pushed me straight back into stress.  This is what is known as a ‘hanging healing’, where the body repeatedly cycles through the process, unable to break out of the pattern and complete the journey through regeneration and normalisation to wellbeing.

This pattern continued for many years for me, even after my Dad’s death, because by then other traumas had added their triggers and, as a consequence, my wellbeing suffered considerably.  In fact this is one of the factors that lead me to explore complementary therapies and ways that I could address the underlying cause of my dis-ease rather than just taking pills, which might help in the short term but never fully got rid of the problem.

Having studied META-Health I now have a greater understanding of what’s going on in my body and what my symptoms are telling me.  If I know which tissue is involved this tells me which brain relay has been triggered and therefore what the deeper issue is that I need to address.  For example, in my story above, I needed to let go of my fears for my survival and know that my needs would be met by those around me until I was an adult and able to fully care and provide for myself.

I now also know that any symptoms I experience will indicate where I am in the process so that I can know how best to work towards my recovery.

Through my energy work practice and creating a diet that is more appropriate for my needs, I have now been able to support my body to become healthier than it’s ever been.

In the next blog I will look at how the META-Health process can be used to help identify the root cause of any disease so that it can be addressed directly in order to clear it and allow the body to return to health and wellbeing.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)

What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 3)

In the last post I talked about the trauma I’d experienced at the announcement of my parents’ plan to get divorced.  This was my UDIN (Unexpected trauma that was Dramatic, Isolating and for which I had No coping strategy – point 2 in the diagram above).

Shortly after the announcement, Mum took us to her parents’ house for the weekend to give my Dad space to pack up and move out.  I remember ‘running’ around on my crutches and being a bit ‘hyper’ because the stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol, were pumping round my body as I went from the ‘freeze’ state of shock and into the ‘fight or flight’ state of the stress phase (3).

We then returned home and over the next few weeks life settled down into its new routine.  I began to realise that, actually, life was a lot calmer without my Dad around.  Also, contrary to the belief of my primitive brain, I had not been ‘cast out from my tribe’.  Instead I discovered that my Mum and I had a lot in common and were very close whereas my brother – now the only boy in the household and quite a different personality type – was becoming a bit of an outsider.  This realisation was a ‘shift’ for me (4).  (It wasn’t quite a resolution as there were still issues going on that continued to trigger my fears (around contact with my Dad) but it was enough to send me into the second phase (5, 6 & 7) ).

If you’ve been following this series of blogs, you might have already begun to suspect what kind of symptoms I then experienced.  Earlier I talked about my fears being related to survival and so this was a brain stem issue.  This relay relates to various tissues including those responsible for digestion.  I mentioned that ” my whole insides rebelled ” and ” I felt that all the stuffing had been knocked out of me”.  Also the news of my parents’ divorce came as a complete shock and I couldn’t digest it.  All this meant that the organ tissue which held the shock was my intestines and when I went in to regeneration this is where I experienced dis-ease.  I began to suffer from IBS and food intolerances as the tissues started to heal.

During the stress phase these tissues had added extra cells in order to better digest the trauma.  Now that there had been a shift these extra cells were no longer needed and so the body started to break them down and eliminate them, causing my symptoms of pain, nausea, cramping and diarrhoea.

In my next post, I’ll look at what happened next and how I was able to start the journey back to better health and wellbeing.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)