What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 5)

So, having looked at the process of META-Health, and a personal example from my own life, how can this help you in your healing journey?

My first step in working with a client is to ask for their ‘timeline’.  This is basically a chronological account of all the Significant Emotional Events in their life.  I personally like people to write this covering all the way from birth onwards as it can help me to detect repeating patterns and get a sense of the person, but in any case the timeline should go back to at least 3 years before symptoms appear.  I also need to know the person’s medical diagnosis, if they have one, and a list of any medications they’re taking, or have taken, for the issue.  It is also useful to know if they’ve tried other interventions and how helpful – or not – these were.

Once I know which tissue is affected I can work out which brain relay this relates to.  From this I can tell which stage they are at in the healing process:

It is then possible to work back to find the initial conflict (2).

Writing the timeline in itself can be very healing.  As one client said to me, it was amazing to put her life story down on paper and see it all in one place for the first time.  This was a kind of affirmation for her that she had, in fact, dealt with a lot in her life and that she was actually stronger than she had realised.  It can also be a very cathartic process to put down, in black and white, things that you might have been bottling up inside, or trying to push to the back of your mind.  This process helps you to look at things and to acknowledge them so that you can then start to process them in order to let go and to move on.

I often get the feeling that, in our society, we are encouraged to ‘move on’ before we’re ready.  As I said earlier, trauma is subjective, so other people might not appreciate the impact that an event has had on a person.  They might, with the best of intentions, want to encourage the person to ‘put it all behind them’ or to ‘think positively’ but this is not possible until the person has finished processing what happened.  Or perhaps it’s our own inner voice that is encouraging us to push everything under the carpet and carry on as if nothing has happened.  However, if we don’t listen to our inner needs, they will just start to get louder in order to be heard!

META-Health teaches great self compassion and understanding.  We can truly begin to see that we are doing the best we can with the resources available to us in a given situation.  Also, our bodies don’t make mistakes.  If we’re experiencing symptoms or discomfort, it’s just our body trying to let us know that something isn’t right, but if we listen and make some changes – meet the needs that are currently unmet – then the body will find its way back to balance and wellbeing again.

So, having identified the trauma, or ‘UDIN’, what next?  As part of a consultation I will look at all the layers of a the client’s life: physical, emotional, social and spiritual.  I will also consider their characteristics: do they tend to be primarily a visual, auditory or kinaesthetic person, for example.  Taking these things into consideration I then put together a suggested plan of action, to discuss with the client, to help them create the healthier, happier life they dream of.

This plan can draw on a range of different therapies depending on what is most appropriate for the person in their particular situation.  I personally offer a variety of energy therapies including Reiki / Energy Healing, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT / sometimes referred to as ‘tapping’) along with some nutrition, lifestyle and relaxation techniques and tips.  I am very happy to offer these as part of a client’s action plan and for them to continue to work with me if they choose.

In addition I have a wide network of colleagues offering other complementary holistic therapies that we can draw upon to create a full and rounded wellbeing package.

The steps to be taken and the time required to create a new and healthier life will depend on the person, their condition, the circumstances in which they find themselves and their level of commitment, however it doesn’t need to be ‘hard work’ and the journey is in itself something to enjoy and to learn from.  It is worth remembering that it has taken time for your body to get into dis-ease and it will take time to get back to wellbeing but at each step along the way you will see an improvement.  This process can also result in lasting change and a whole new perspective, helping you to better deal with any issues that you face in the future.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)

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What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 4)

Previously I talked about my personal experience of how a trauma created digestive dis-ease in the form of IBS and food intolerances.

Another common feature with fears around survival are that the body retains water.  Its reasoning is that alone it is more difficult to find this life-sustaining resource and so it must hold on to as much as it can until it is reunited with the tribe.  When the body again feels it is safe it can release the water.  At its peak (6) this is often experienced as a migraine, and this is what happened for me.  It can also mean that you pee more than normal as your body pushes out the excess water.

As I mentioned in my last post, I was repeatedly being retriggered as contact with my Dad did not go smoothly and it often pushed me straight back into stress.  This is what is known as a ‘hanging healing’, where the body repeatedly cycles through the process, unable to break out of the pattern and complete the journey through regeneration and normalisation to wellbeing.

This pattern continued for many years for me, even after my Dad’s death, because by then other traumas had added their triggers and, as a consequence, my wellbeing suffered considerably.  In fact this is one of the factors that lead me to explore complementary therapies and ways that I could address the underlying cause of my dis-ease rather than just taking pills, which might help in the short term but never fully got rid of the problem.

Having studied META-Health I now have a greater understanding of what’s going on in my body and what my symptoms are telling me.  If I know which tissue is involved this tells me which brain relay has been triggered and therefore what the deeper issue is that I need to address.  For example, in my story above, I needed to let go of my fears for my survival and know that my needs would be met by those around me until I was an adult and able to fully care and provide for myself.

I now also know that any symptoms I experience will indicate where I am in the process so that I can know how best to work towards my recovery.

Through my energy work practice and creating a diet that is more appropriate for my needs, I have now been able to support my body to become healthier than it’s ever been.

In the next blog I will look at how the META-Health process can be used to help identify the root cause of any disease so that it can be addressed directly in order to clear it and allow the body to return to health and wellbeing.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)

What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 3)

In the last post I talked about the trauma I’d experienced at the announcement of my parents’ plan to get divorced.  This was my UDIN (Unexpected trauma that was Dramatic, Isolating and for which I had No coping strategy – point 2 in the diagram above).

Shortly after the announcement, Mum took us to her parents’ house for the weekend to give my Dad space to pack up and move out.  I remember ‘running’ around on my crutches and being a bit ‘hyper’ because the stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol, were pumping round my body as I went from the ‘freeze’ state of shock and into the ‘fight or flight’ state of the stress phase (3).

We then returned home and over the next few weeks life settled down into its new routine.  I began to realise that, actually, life was a lot calmer without my Dad around.  Also, contrary to the belief of my primitive brain, I had not been ‘cast out from my tribe’.  Instead I discovered that my Mum and I had a lot in common and were very close whereas my brother – now the only boy in the household and quite a different personality type – was becoming a bit of an outsider.  This realisation was a ‘shift’ for me (4).  (It wasn’t quite a resolution as there were still issues going on that continued to trigger my fears (around contact with my Dad) but it was enough to send me into the second phase (5, 6 & 7) ).

If you’ve been following this series of blogs, you might have already begun to suspect what kind of symptoms I then experienced.  Earlier I talked about my fears being related to survival and so this was a brain stem issue.  This relay relates to various tissues including those responsible for digestion.  I mentioned that ” my whole insides rebelled ” and ” I felt that all the stuffing had been knocked out of me”.  Also the news of my parents’ divorce came as a complete shock and I couldn’t digest it.  All this meant that the organ tissue which held the shock was my intestines and when I went in to regeneration this is where I experienced dis-ease.  I began to suffer from IBS and food intolerances as the tissues started to heal.

During the stress phase these tissues had added extra cells in order to better digest the trauma.  Now that there had been a shift these extra cells were no longer needed and so the body started to break them down and eliminate them, causing my symptoms of pain, nausea, cramping and diarrhoea.

In my next post, I’ll look at what happened next and how I was able to start the journey back to better health and wellbeing.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)

What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 2)

In the last post we looked at how dis-ease is actually part of a wellbeing process.  Now I’d like to give an example to illustrate how this works.

When we experience a traumatic event – one that is Unexpected, Dramatic, Isolating and for which we have No coping strategy (a UDIN), the stress comes into the body and is held somewhere in an organ tissue.  The particular organ involved will depend on the nature of the stress but our vocabulary can often give clues – eg I couldn’t swallow it / digest it; it stinks; I felt sickened; I can’t get my head around it; I couldn’t breathe; I couldn’t bear to look; etc

Each organ relates to a particular brain relay – the Brain Stem, Cerebellum, Medulla or Cortex (this is determined by embryology– the way the baby develops in the womb) and each brain relay has its own ‘meaning’ or ‘lesson’. Eg the brain stem is about survival, the cerebellum is about our ‘nest’, the medulla is about self-worth and the cortex is about separation.

As an example, I’m going to tell you a personal story related to a health condition that I struggled with for a number of years.  Remember that all trauma is subjective and so it will be perceived from the individual’s perspective.  This can be influenced by how they’re feeling on a particular day, their life experience, their gender and culture.

As I mentioned above, the brain stem relates to issues around survival.  In pre-historic times this would have been literal life-or-death situations but for us today this could also include experiences where we feel very fearful, or threatened in a more ‘metaphorical’ way.  Again it can be helpful to notice our language – events that make you say things like ‘that frightened me to death’, or ‘nearly gave me a heart attack’, or ‘made me want to die’, could affect the organs and tissues connected to this relay.  The severity of the impact will depend on the intensity of the fear that you feel.

The story starts when I was 13 years old.  My parents called my brother and myself in to the dining room saying that they had something to tell us.  I happened to be in plaster from hips to ankles due to a painful knee condition (a whole other story!) and so I remember sitting on the floor with my legs straight out in front of me and my back against the wall for support.  Getting up and down from the floor was an effort but sitting in a chair wasn’t comfortable unless I perched on the edge and then my legs would be in the way.

Anyway, we all sat down and my Dad started to say how he and my Mum had decided to split up.  This was a huge blow to me in itself but Dad then went on to say that I’d be ok because I was like him and a loner (my whole insides rebelled at this – I felt that I was not a loner out of choice, it was just that I found it hard to make friends, and that actually I was very lonely and unhappy at school).  He then turned to my brother and said that he’d be ok as he was my Mum’s favourite!

Bang – a UDIN!  I felt that all the stuffing had been knocked out of me.  I wanted to cry, to run away, to be anywhere but there listening to what felt like the end of the world…  I felt completely alone and rejected.  The primitive parts of my brain – my brain stem – interpreted this as being cast out from my tribe, an almost certain death sentence, since alone I would be without shelter and less likely to find food or water. (This part of our brain has not kept up with evolution and things like single parent families, supermarkets or indoor plumbing!)

In the next blog I’ll explain more about what happened next and how this UDIN created dis-ease in my body.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)

Giving Healing Some Horse Power – part 6

The right fuel

As someone who’s experienced food intolerances in the past I’ve become very interested in reading labels and knowing what’s in the food that I eat.  Also, through my work with horses I’ve seen the consequences of a diet that is not appropriate to the animal’s needs.

Many of the commercial horse feeds are loaded with sugar.  They also contain chemicals such as pesticides and mould inhibitors.  All this plays havoc with the horse’s metabolism leading to a variety of health conditions.  Domesticated horses are genetically identical to their wild cousins and so their digestive systems need to be given the same diet, that is lots of high fibre, low sugar forage supplemented as necessary with other plants, herbs, vegetables and fruits to ensure they get all the vitamins and minerals they require.  Horses’ digestive systems work on a fermentation system to extract the nutrients they need from this diet, meaning that they rely on a good balance of healthy gut bacteria.  Stress, medication and toxic chemicals take their toll on these bacteria, upsetting the healthy balance and causing dis-ease.

This is also true for us.  Many of us lead busy lives and so have come to rely on ready made and microwaveable meals.  These often contain high levels of sugar and salt and the processing that is done in their preparation destroys much of the goodness.  In addition our fruits and vegetables are produced through intensive farming methods using chemical sprays, which result in fewer nutrients and also toxins that overload the liver.

I believe it is very important to source ingredients that are as healthy and natural as possible.  Buy organic where you can or, even better, grow your own.  Cook from scratch (if you’re short on time perhaps you can do this in advance and freeze portions for later meals) adding herbs and spices for extra flavour rather than salt or sugar.  Include a wide range of foods and colours to ensure that you’re getting enough vitamins and minerals.  If you eat meat, fish, eggs and/or dairy I would again recommend buying organic and unprocessed options where possible to avoid the hormones, antibiotics and other chemicals that can be found in some of these foods.

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If you you’d like to review your diet and see where you might be able to make some healthy changes, please feel free to contact me to book a session:

email:              robyn@equnergy.com

phone:             07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

Taken from Giving Healing Some Horse Power.  You can read the full text here.

Giving Healing Some Horse Power – part 5

The importance of Rest

So often we are looking for a magic wand: that pill or procedure that can make us well, but in doing this we are relying on others to heal us when the only real and lasting healing comes from within.

Our bodies have a blueprint of how they should work and also a variety of systems that are always aiming for balance and working towards the healthy model.  However our lives are often busy and our stress levels can mean that we loose that balance, leading to disease.

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When we take time to be still we can reconnect with our inner wisdom, allowing the body’s systems to work as they were designed to do.  This is why including times of rest into our schedule is so important.  It switches the body from the ‘fight or flight’ cycle of the sympathetic nervous system into the ‘rest and repair’ cycle of the parasympathetic nervous system.

You can see this in animals.  They spend time sleeping or dozing during the day – think of your dog, cat or horse who can often be found taking a nap!  Athletes know this too and plan regular rest days into their training schedules.

 

The importance of Play 

I’ve been fortunate recently to be spending some time with a couple of fabulous geldings.  One, a Welsh Section D, is 23 years old and his best mate, a Warmblood, is 17 – but you’d never know it!  Put them out together and they run around and play like a pair of 2 year olds.  It’s wonderful to watch them having fun together, racing around, rearing and bucking.

Contrast this with a lovely chestnut gelding who lives at the same yard.  He’s 22 years old and seems to be a bit of a loner, always standing still in one spot, just watching.  There are obviously lots of contributing factors to this: his age, his health (he has arthritis), his build and confirmation, but it’s interesting to see how much older he appears (even though he’s actually younger than the Section D).  The other 2 boys also have joint issues, but they experience less pain and stiffness.  Their play is helping to keep them both fit and young at heart.

It reminds me of the saying:

play

In our busy lives we can get caught up in rushing around between work and home commitments and weeks can go by before we realise that we haven’t made any time for fun.  I strongly believe that it’s important to find what ‘makes your heart sing’ and to regularly ring fence times for this.

For me it’s spending time in Nature, gardening, reading and being with friends and animals.

What brings you joy and how can you include more of this in your life?

If you would like to explore ways to experience this balance and healing rest, please contact me:

email:              robyn@equnergy.com

phone:            07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

Taken from Giving Healing Some Horse Power.  You can read the full text here.

Giving Healing Some Horse Power – part 4

Relationship 

Working with horses has taught me that relationship itself can bring healing.

As I mentioned in part 2, trauma can be very isolating.  Our system goes into the ‘freeze response’ and we dissociate from the trauma, pushing it away into our subconscious.  This disconnects us from those painful emotions, which can serve us for a while – after all it is an instinctual survival strategy – but it also means that we are less in touch with ourselves which makes it harder to fully relate to those around us.

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In contrast, when we can open up to ourselves and to connecting with others, it can be a very healing experience.

I’ve done this myself – I had previously shut down some parts of my being due to painful experiences in the past and it was through reconnecting with animals that I learnt to let go of the hurt and to gradually accept myself for who I am.  I’m still a work in progress, but it’s the horses that keep me moving forward on the journey.  They are very present and sensitive beings and quickly indicate if I’m slipping back into my masks and pretence.  However if I allow my feelings to come to the surface, their non-judgemental presence enables me to experience the emotion, process it and let it go.  This then brings understanding, acceptance and self-forgiveness so that I am no longer stuck and can move on.

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After all, e-motions are just energy in motion.  We are not meant to hold on to them.  They can give us valuable information about how the thoughts we have about events in our lives are impacting on us, but if the energy becomes stuck or blocked it creates dis-ease.

My work with horses has shown me how to hold a space where people are free to express and explore their issues and to look within to find the answers that work for them – the answers were there all along, they just needed to reconnect with that inner wisdom.  As the horses have taught me, it’s more about listening and Be-ing, than Do-ing.  (More about this in part 5.)

If you would like a safe space to explore your issues and discover ways to connect with your inner wisdom and healing then please contact me:

email:              robyn@equnergy.com

phone:             07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com 

 

Taken from Giving Healing Some Horse Power.  You can read the full text here.