What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 5)

So, having looked at the process of META-Health, and a personal example from my own life, how can this help you in your healing journey?

My first step in working with a client is to ask for their ‘timeline’.  This is basically a chronological account of all the Significant Emotional Events in their life.  I personally like people to write this covering all the way from birth onwards as it can help me to detect repeating patterns and get a sense of the person, but in any case the timeline should go back to at least 3 years before symptoms appear.  I also need to know the person’s medical diagnosis, if they have one, and a list of any medications they’re taking, or have taken, for the issue.  It is also useful to know if they’ve tried other interventions and how helpful – or not – these were.

Once I know which tissue is affected I can work out which brain relay this relates to.  From this I can tell which stage they are at in the healing process:

It is then possible to work back to find the initial conflict (2).

Writing the timeline in itself can be very healing.  As one client said to me, it was amazing to put her life story down on paper and see it all in one place for the first time.  This was a kind of affirmation for her that she had, in fact, dealt with a lot in her life and that she was actually stronger than she had realised.  It can also be a very cathartic process to put down, in black and white, things that you might have been bottling up inside, or trying to push to the back of your mind.  This process helps you to look at things and to acknowledge them so that you can then start to process them in order to let go and to move on.

I often get the feeling that, in our society, we are encouraged to ‘move on’ before we’re ready.  As I said earlier, trauma is subjective, so other people might not appreciate the impact that an event has had on a person.  They might, with the best of intentions, want to encourage the person to ‘put it all behind them’ or to ‘think positively’ but this is not possible until the person has finished processing what happened.  Or perhaps it’s our own inner voice that is encouraging us to push everything under the carpet and carry on as if nothing has happened.  However, if we don’t listen to our inner needs, they will just start to get louder in order to be heard!

META-Health teaches great self compassion and understanding.  We can truly begin to see that we are doing the best we can with the resources available to us in a given situation.  Also, our bodies don’t make mistakes.  If we’re experiencing symptoms or discomfort, it’s just our body trying to let us know that something isn’t right, but if we listen and make some changes – meet the needs that are currently unmet – then the body will find its way back to balance and wellbeing again.

So, having identified the trauma, or ‘UDIN’, what next?  As part of a consultation I will look at all the layers of a the client’s life: physical, emotional, social and spiritual.  I will also consider their characteristics: do they tend to be primarily a visual, auditory or kinaesthetic person, for example.  Taking these things into consideration I then put together a suggested plan of action, to discuss with the client, to help them create the healthier, happier life they dream of.

This plan can draw on a range of different therapies depending on what is most appropriate for the person in their particular situation.  I personally offer a variety of energy therapies including Reiki / Energy Healing, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT / sometimes referred to as ‘tapping’) along with some nutrition, lifestyle and relaxation techniques and tips.  I am very happy to offer these as part of a client’s action plan and for them to continue to work with me if they choose.

In addition I have a wide network of colleagues offering other complementary holistic therapies that we can draw upon to create a full and rounded wellbeing package.

The steps to be taken and the time required to create a new and healthier life will depend on the person, their condition, the circumstances in which they find themselves and their level of commitment, however it doesn’t need to be ‘hard work’ and the journey is in itself something to enjoy and to learn from.  It is worth remembering that it has taken time for your body to get into dis-ease and it will take time to get back to wellbeing but at each step along the way you will see an improvement.  This process can also result in lasting change and a whole new perspective, helping you to better deal with any issues that you face in the future.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)

What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 3)

In the last post I talked about the trauma I’d experienced at the announcement of my parents’ plan to get divorced.  This was my UDIN (Unexpected trauma that was Dramatic, Isolating and for which I had No coping strategy – point 2 in the diagram above).

Shortly after the announcement, Mum took us to her parents’ house for the weekend to give my Dad space to pack up and move out.  I remember ‘running’ around on my crutches and being a bit ‘hyper’ because the stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol, were pumping round my body as I went from the ‘freeze’ state of shock and into the ‘fight or flight’ state of the stress phase (3).

We then returned home and over the next few weeks life settled down into its new routine.  I began to realise that, actually, life was a lot calmer without my Dad around.  Also, contrary to the belief of my primitive brain, I had not been ‘cast out from my tribe’.  Instead I discovered that my Mum and I had a lot in common and were very close whereas my brother – now the only boy in the household and quite a different personality type – was becoming a bit of an outsider.  This realisation was a ‘shift’ for me (4).  (It wasn’t quite a resolution as there were still issues going on that continued to trigger my fears (around contact with my Dad) but it was enough to send me into the second phase (5, 6 & 7) ).

If you’ve been following this series of blogs, you might have already begun to suspect what kind of symptoms I then experienced.  Earlier I talked about my fears being related to survival and so this was a brain stem issue.  This relay relates to various tissues including those responsible for digestion.  I mentioned that ” my whole insides rebelled ” and ” I felt that all the stuffing had been knocked out of me”.  Also the news of my parents’ divorce came as a complete shock and I couldn’t digest it.  All this meant that the organ tissue which held the shock was my intestines and when I went in to regeneration this is where I experienced dis-ease.  I began to suffer from IBS and food intolerances as the tissues started to heal.

During the stress phase these tissues had added extra cells in order to better digest the trauma.  Now that there had been a shift these extra cells were no longer needed and so the body started to break them down and eliminate them, causing my symptoms of pain, nausea, cramping and diarrhoea.

In my next post, I’ll look at what happened next and how I was able to start the journey back to better health and wellbeing.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)

Giving Healing Some Horse Power – part 5

The importance of Rest

So often we are looking for a magic wand: that pill or procedure that can make us well, but in doing this we are relying on others to heal us when the only real and lasting healing comes from within.

Our bodies have a blueprint of how they should work and also a variety of systems that are always aiming for balance and working towards the healthy model.  However our lives are often busy and our stress levels can mean that we loose that balance, leading to disease.

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When we take time to be still we can reconnect with our inner wisdom, allowing the body’s systems to work as they were designed to do.  This is why including times of rest into our schedule is so important.  It switches the body from the ‘fight or flight’ cycle of the sympathetic nervous system into the ‘rest and repair’ cycle of the parasympathetic nervous system.

You can see this in animals.  They spend time sleeping or dozing during the day – think of your dog, cat or horse who can often be found taking a nap!  Athletes know this too and plan regular rest days into their training schedules.

 

The importance of Play 

I’ve been fortunate recently to be spending some time with a couple of fabulous geldings.  One, a Welsh Section D, is 23 years old and his best mate, a Warmblood, is 17 – but you’d never know it!  Put them out together and they run around and play like a pair of 2 year olds.  It’s wonderful to watch them having fun together, racing around, rearing and bucking.

Contrast this with a lovely chestnut gelding who lives at the same yard.  He’s 22 years old and seems to be a bit of a loner, always standing still in one spot, just watching.  There are obviously lots of contributing factors to this: his age, his health (he has arthritis), his build and confirmation, but it’s interesting to see how much older he appears (even though he’s actually younger than the Section D).  The other 2 boys also have joint issues, but they experience less pain and stiffness.  Their play is helping to keep them both fit and young at heart.

It reminds me of the saying:

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In our busy lives we can get caught up in rushing around between work and home commitments and weeks can go by before we realise that we haven’t made any time for fun.  I strongly believe that it’s important to find what ‘makes your heart sing’ and to regularly ring fence times for this.

For me it’s spending time in Nature, gardening, reading and being with friends and animals.

What brings you joy and how can you include more of this in your life?

If you would like to explore ways to experience this balance and healing rest, please contact me:

email:              robyn@equnergy.com

phone:            07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

Taken from Giving Healing Some Horse Power.  You can read the full text here.

Giving Healing Some Horse Power – part 4

Relationship 

Working with horses has taught me that relationship itself can bring healing.

As I mentioned in part 2, trauma can be very isolating.  Our system goes into the ‘freeze response’ and we dissociate from the trauma, pushing it away into our subconscious.  This disconnects us from those painful emotions, which can serve us for a while – after all it is an instinctual survival strategy – but it also means that we are less in touch with ourselves which makes it harder to fully relate to those around us.

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In contrast, when we can open up to ourselves and to connecting with others, it can be a very healing experience.

I’ve done this myself – I had previously shut down some parts of my being due to painful experiences in the past and it was through reconnecting with animals that I learnt to let go of the hurt and to gradually accept myself for who I am.  I’m still a work in progress, but it’s the horses that keep me moving forward on the journey.  They are very present and sensitive beings and quickly indicate if I’m slipping back into my masks and pretence.  However if I allow my feelings to come to the surface, their non-judgemental presence enables me to experience the emotion, process it and let it go.  This then brings understanding, acceptance and self-forgiveness so that I am no longer stuck and can move on.

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After all, e-motions are just energy in motion.  We are not meant to hold on to them.  They can give us valuable information about how the thoughts we have about events in our lives are impacting on us, but if the energy becomes stuck or blocked it creates dis-ease.

My work with horses has shown me how to hold a space where people are free to express and explore their issues and to look within to find the answers that work for them – the answers were there all along, they just needed to reconnect with that inner wisdom.  As the horses have taught me, it’s more about listening and Be-ing, than Do-ing.  (More about this in part 5.)

If you would like a safe space to explore your issues and discover ways to connect with your inner wisdom and healing then please contact me:

email:              robyn@equnergy.com

phone:             07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com 

 

Taken from Giving Healing Some Horse Power.  You can read the full text here.

Giving Healing Some Horse Power – part 3

Listening and Observing

When seeking to establish the connection that I wrote about in parts 1 & 2, listening and observing are essential skills.  As humans we have come to rely heavily on spoken language in our relationships with others, but words are often inadequate or misleading when talking about emotions.

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With horses words aren’t an option and so I’ve had to become more skilled at reading body language and facial expression.  As discussed in the two previous posts, connection is a great help with this, as is spending time just watching the horses and people I meet and becoming more familiar with the cues available and the meanings behind them.  There are general interpretations that can be applied to every horse or every human, but there will also be nuances that relate solely to the individual.

(If you’d like to know more about body language and facial expression in horses see Video 6 of the series available through my online shop.)

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Trust, Empathy and Rapport

These three are vital for any wellbeing session.  Without them the client will not feel:

  • safe
  • connected
  • understood
  • heard

This will limit their ability to:

  • be open
  • be objective
  • create solutions
  • experience self acceptance

And without these, true and lasting healing is not possible.

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Horses have taught me the importance of letting go of my own agenda and trusting my client’s inner wisdom about what they need and what is right for them.  I only need to hold the space and they will find the way.

As I mentioned before, horses are great mirrors to what is happening with our emotions.  This has helped me to get more in touch with my inner self and so I, in turn, know that showing empathy to my clients will enable them to explore their own situation in more depth.

Establishing this rapport is what enables the client to feel safe and so opens the way to lasting change.

If you are looking for a listening ear and a way to create a healthier and more fulfilling life then please contact me:

email:              robyn@equnergy.com

phone:            07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

Taken from Giving Healing Some Horse Power.  You can read the full text here.

Giving Healing Some Horse Power – part 2

II. Connection with the moment

In order to achieve the full self awareness I talked about in my previous post I need to ensure that I am fully present.  In other words, am I fully in this moment, or am I thinking about something that has happened (for example the stressful car journey) or something that might happen in the future (is it going to be just as challenging on my drive home?).

As horses are very sensitive to the energy of others, and their body language shows their emotions in the moment, they are a great barometer and mirror to what is going on within us.  They soon let me know if I am bringing any baggage to our connection!  This has helped me to become more aware of my own body and emotions and has also required me to learn ways to release any unhelpful energies.

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There are several techniques that can help with this.  Personally I use mindfulness, the Trust Technique™*, breathing and grounding exercises.  These can also help to release any energy or emotions that would be unhelpful in a session with a client or horse.

* You can read more about the Trust Technique™ here.

 

III. Connection with the client

In order to create a safe space for my client – horse or human – it is important to connect with them.  To do this I need to establish trust, empathy and rapport (more about this in part 3).

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This connection is in itself very healing.  When we experience trauma of any kind and we are unable to deal with it in the moment – if we are unable to run away, to fight back or to speak up for ourselves – then, as a coping strategy, we go into the ‘freeze response’.  (This can be either the severe ‘Big T’ traumas such as abuse, or the more everyday ‘little t’ traumas such as feeling hurt by someone’s comment).  This can be a very isolating experience. For example we can feel shame and/or fear that leave us feeling distanced from those around us.  Also trauma is subjective.  What is very upsetting to one person might have little or no impact on another which can mean that we are nervous of sharing our feelings in case they are dismissed or ridiculed.

Offering a non-judgemental connection can in itself be very healing.  It opens up space for the person to be able to explore their feelings more objectively, allowing for acceptance and self-forgiveness.

If you would like to know more about the power of being present, or if you would like to develop more self acceptance then please contact me:

email:              robyn@equnergy.com

phone:             07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

Taken from Giving Healing Some Horse Power.  You can read the full text here.