What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 5)

So, having looked at the process of META-Health, and a personal example from my own life, how can this help you in your healing journey?

My first step in working with a client is to ask for their ‘timeline’.  This is basically a chronological account of all the Significant Emotional Events in their life.  I personally like people to write this covering all the way from birth onwards as it can help me to detect repeating patterns and get a sense of the person, but in any case the timeline should go back to at least 3 years before symptoms appear.  I also need to know the person’s medical diagnosis, if they have one, and a list of any medications they’re taking, or have taken, for the issue.  It is also useful to know if they’ve tried other interventions and how helpful – or not – these were.

Once I know which tissue is affected I can work out which brain relay this relates to.  From this I can tell which stage they are at in the healing process:

It is then possible to work back to find the initial conflict (2).

Writing the timeline in itself can be very healing.  As one client said to me, it was amazing to put her life story down on paper and see it all in one place for the first time.  This was a kind of affirmation for her that she had, in fact, dealt with a lot in her life and that she was actually stronger than she had realised.  It can also be a very cathartic process to put down, in black and white, things that you might have been bottling up inside, or trying to push to the back of your mind.  This process helps you to look at things and to acknowledge them so that you can then start to process them in order to let go and to move on.

I often get the feeling that, in our society, we are encouraged to ‘move on’ before we’re ready.  As I said earlier, trauma is subjective, so other people might not appreciate the impact that an event has had on a person.  They might, with the best of intentions, want to encourage the person to ‘put it all behind them’ or to ‘think positively’ but this is not possible until the person has finished processing what happened.  Or perhaps it’s our own inner voice that is encouraging us to push everything under the carpet and carry on as if nothing has happened.  However, if we don’t listen to our inner needs, they will just start to get louder in order to be heard!

META-Health teaches great self compassion and understanding.  We can truly begin to see that we are doing the best we can with the resources available to us in a given situation.  Also, our bodies don’t make mistakes.  If we’re experiencing symptoms or discomfort, it’s just our body trying to let us know that something isn’t right, but if we listen and make some changes – meet the needs that are currently unmet – then the body will find its way back to balance and wellbeing again.

So, having identified the trauma, or ‘UDIN’, what next?  As part of a consultation I will look at all the layers of a the client’s life: physical, emotional, social and spiritual.  I will also consider their characteristics: do they tend to be primarily a visual, auditory or kinaesthetic person, for example.  Taking these things into consideration I then put together a suggested plan of action, to discuss with the client, to help them create the healthier, happier life they dream of.

This plan can draw on a range of different therapies depending on what is most appropriate for the person in their particular situation.  I personally offer a variety of energy therapies including Reiki / Energy Healing, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT / sometimes referred to as ‘tapping’) along with some nutrition, lifestyle and relaxation techniques and tips.  I am very happy to offer these as part of a client’s action plan and for them to continue to work with me if they choose.

In addition I have a wide network of colleagues offering other complementary holistic therapies that we can draw upon to create a full and rounded wellbeing package.

The steps to be taken and the time required to create a new and healthier life will depend on the person, their condition, the circumstances in which they find themselves and their level of commitment, however it doesn’t need to be ‘hard work’ and the journey is in itself something to enjoy and to learn from.  It is worth remembering that it has taken time for your body to get into dis-ease and it will take time to get back to wellbeing but at each step along the way you will see an improvement.  This process can also result in lasting change and a whole new perspective, helping you to better deal with any issues that you face in the future.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)

What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 3)

In the last post I talked about the trauma I’d experienced at the announcement of my parents’ plan to get divorced.  This was my UDIN (Unexpected trauma that was Dramatic, Isolating and for which I had No coping strategy – point 2 in the diagram above).

Shortly after the announcement, Mum took us to her parents’ house for the weekend to give my Dad space to pack up and move out.  I remember ‘running’ around on my crutches and being a bit ‘hyper’ because the stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol, were pumping round my body as I went from the ‘freeze’ state of shock and into the ‘fight or flight’ state of the stress phase (3).

We then returned home and over the next few weeks life settled down into its new routine.  I began to realise that, actually, life was a lot calmer without my Dad around.  Also, contrary to the belief of my primitive brain, I had not been ‘cast out from my tribe’.  Instead I discovered that my Mum and I had a lot in common and were very close whereas my brother – now the only boy in the household and quite a different personality type – was becoming a bit of an outsider.  This realisation was a ‘shift’ for me (4).  (It wasn’t quite a resolution as there were still issues going on that continued to trigger my fears (around contact with my Dad) but it was enough to send me into the second phase (5, 6 & 7) ).

If you’ve been following this series of blogs, you might have already begun to suspect what kind of symptoms I then experienced.  Earlier I talked about my fears being related to survival and so this was a brain stem issue.  This relay relates to various tissues including those responsible for digestion.  I mentioned that ” my whole insides rebelled ” and ” I felt that all the stuffing had been knocked out of me”.  Also the news of my parents’ divorce came as a complete shock and I couldn’t digest it.  All this meant that the organ tissue which held the shock was my intestines and when I went in to regeneration this is where I experienced dis-ease.  I began to suffer from IBS and food intolerances as the tissues started to heal.

During the stress phase these tissues had added extra cells in order to better digest the trauma.  Now that there had been a shift these extra cells were no longer needed and so the body started to break them down and eliminate them, causing my symptoms of pain, nausea, cramping and diarrhoea.

In my next post, I’ll look at what happened next and how I was able to start the journey back to better health and wellbeing.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)

Deepening your connection – Part 5

Other ways of supporting your own wellbeing and balance include:

  • taking time-out for yourself
  • meditation / mindfulness
  • physiotherapy / chiropractic / massage sessions
  • a healthy diet
  • getting sufficient sleep
  • complementary therapies (eg homeopathy, aromatherapy Bach Flower remedies, EFT, healing, etc) 

I personally offer a range of support which can be used face-to-face or at a distance:

  • MetaHealth : This sees dis-ease as a process and, by analysing what is going on for the person, it can trace back to find the original trigger behind the symptoms. The practitioner can then suggest ways in which the trigger can be addressed directly, and cleared, allowing the person to make the journey back to good health.
  • Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) : this uses the same meridian lines followed by Traditional Chinese medicine, however without the needles! It helps to clear blocked traumas and so is a very effective therapy.  It can be used with a wide range of issues including chronic pain, anxiety, limiting beliefs, allergies and phobias.
  • Energy Healing / Reiki : This is a wonderfully relaxing therapy which encourages your body to naturally move into the parasympathetic cycle of rest and repair. It can be used to support a wide range of issues including:
    • healing of injuries
    • detoxification (eg after chemotherapy of giving up smoking)
    • pain relief
    • balancing
    • a sense of wellbeing and calm
  • Nutrition : I am currently studying to be a nutritional therapist and I can advise you on ‘clean eating’ to support health and wellbeing

 

The information in this article was taken from my workshops and video series on giving horses a more natural lifestyle and the benefits that this brings, not only to them but to their owners / carers.  To see more, please follow this link:

www.equenergy.com/horse-care-video-series

If you have comments or questions about anything in this article, or if you would like to book a session with me, please don’t hesitate to get in touch: 

            email:              robyn@equenergy.com

mobile:           07980 669303

You can also read more about me and my work on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(Read the full article here)

Giving Healing Some Horse Power – part 2

II. Connection with the moment

In order to achieve the full self awareness I talked about in my previous post I need to ensure that I am fully present.  In other words, am I fully in this moment, or am I thinking about something that has happened (for example the stressful car journey) or something that might happen in the future (is it going to be just as challenging on my drive home?).

As horses are very sensitive to the energy of others, and their body language shows their emotions in the moment, they are a great barometer and mirror to what is going on within us.  They soon let me know if I am bringing any baggage to our connection!  This has helped me to become more aware of my own body and emotions and has also required me to learn ways to release any unhelpful energies.

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There are several techniques that can help with this.  Personally I use mindfulness, the Trust Technique™*, breathing and grounding exercises.  These can also help to release any energy or emotions that would be unhelpful in a session with a client or horse.

* You can read more about the Trust Technique™ here.

 

III. Connection with the client

In order to create a safe space for my client – horse or human – it is important to connect with them.  To do this I need to establish trust, empathy and rapport (more about this in part 3).

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This connection is in itself very healing.  When we experience trauma of any kind and we are unable to deal with it in the moment – if we are unable to run away, to fight back or to speak up for ourselves – then, as a coping strategy, we go into the ‘freeze response’.  (This can be either the severe ‘Big T’ traumas such as abuse, or the more everyday ‘little t’ traumas such as feeling hurt by someone’s comment).  This can be a very isolating experience. For example we can feel shame and/or fear that leave us feeling distanced from those around us.  Also trauma is subjective.  What is very upsetting to one person might have little or no impact on another which can mean that we are nervous of sharing our feelings in case they are dismissed or ridiculed.

Offering a non-judgemental connection can in itself be very healing.  It opens up space for the person to be able to explore their feelings more objectively, allowing for acceptance and self-forgiveness.

If you would like to know more about the power of being present, or if you would like to develop more self acceptance then please contact me:

email:              robyn@equnergy.com

phone:             07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

Taken from Giving Healing Some Horse Power.  You can read the full text here.

Giving Healing Some Horse Power – part 1

I’ve been working with a business coach recently which has resulted in me taking a fresh perspective on the work that I do.  It struck me how much my work with horses feeds into, and enhances, my therapy practice with people.  In this series of 6 posts I’d like to explore what I’ve learnt and how this has influenced my work.

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Connection

I believe that this is key in my work, and indeed in any relationship.

To me, there are (at least) 3 elements to this:

  1. connection with Self
  2. connection with the moment
  3. connection with the client

1 – Connection with Self
In order to be able to fully connect with another, we need to be true to ourselves. If I’m wearing a mask, the horse will think that something is up. Horses don’t wear masks.  They ‘wear their hearts on their sleeves’ and (unless they have shut down due to trauma) they are always clear about their emotions in the moment.

(We might not be able to fully understand the horse’s body language and facial expression but this is something we can learn.  If this is something that interests you, I cover it in more depth in my workshops and in Video 6 of the series available through my website: www.equenergy.com)
If I attempt to hide what I’m really feeling, the horse will become suspicious and nervous.  To him, you only hide something if there is a threat, so effectively I would be signalling that there is some form of danger, therefore putting him on edge.  This, of course, is the last thing I want in a wellbeing session!  I therefore need to connect with myself and become aware of what is going on in my body and my emotions:

  • Am I holding tension?
  • Have I had a stressful journey?
  • Have I recently had an upsetting experience?
  • Do I need to take a moment to release that energy, or at least to acknowledge it?
  • Is this even the right time for me to approach this horse, or do I need some time to deal with my feelings first?

The same is true when working with people.  I need to check in with myself and see if I’m holding any emotion or tension which will affect my ability to focus on my client and to run an effective session.  We, too, can be very sensitive to subtle clues that someone is distracted or not being fully honest with us.  This makes us feel uncomfortable and we unconsciously feel that the person is not to be trusted.

In my work I seek to offer people a safe and non-judgemental space where they can feel free to explore their issues and the solutions that will work for them, therefore it is essential that I ‘show up’ with authenticity and integrity.

In the next post I will look at the other two elements of connection: with the moment and with the client.

If anything here has resonated with you, or you have an issue that you’d like to explore in a safe and non-judgemental space, please contact me:

email:             robyn@equnergy.com

phone:            07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

Taken from Giving Healing Some Horse Power.  You can read the full text here.

What happens in an equine healing session and how does it work?

If you’ve never had a session of Reiki or Energy Healing it can seem a bit ‘out there’ so I thought I’d share a little more about what happens in a typical session and why this is such an effective therapy.

When working with horses I generally start a session by taking some time to just be quiet, using my breath and my body language to help them relax.  I also try to get a sense of how they’re feeling: for example, are they confident, anxious, excited or withdrawn?  I then follow their lead.  Some prefer me not to come to close, while others are happy for me to place my hands on various points of their body.  They will sometimes also indicate the areas where they want attention, for example by looking round at their flank or a leg, or by moving and positioning themselves under my hands.  I constantly watch their body language to see how they are responding.  Licking their lips, chewing and blinking are signs that they are processing.  Yawns, sighs and stretches are signs of releasing.

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Flicking ears, twitching muscles or a swishing tail can indicate areas of discomfort or tension.  I’m also watching the eyes to see if the horse is beginning to relax. This can even progress to the point where the horse begins to doze.

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So what’s going on that causes this to happen?

Most people are probably aware that the brain gives off electromagnetic signals, but did you know that the heart also has an electromagnetic field, and that this is much stronger?  This is how we can sometimes sense what another person is feeling, and why feelings can be ‘contagious’.

heart-em-field

Research by the HeartMath Institute (https://www.heartmath.org) has looked at something called ‘entrainment‘.  This is where one person’s electromagnetic field affects another’s, causing it to fall into the same pattern.

heart-entrainment

This diagram is taken from “Exploring the Role of the Heart in Human Performance: An Overview of Research Conducted by the HeartMath Institute

This is what is happening in a Healing session.  I hold a particular energy – in this case focusing on relaxation and appreciation – and offer this to the horse for them to share.

Relaxation is a vital part of wellbeing.  In order to be healthy we need to find a good balance between activity and rest.  The same is true for horses.  If something disrupts this balance it can lead to dis-ease.  The body is an intelligent system and it generally knows how to restore its equilibrium.  All cells have an inner ‘blueprint’ of how they are supposed to behave: if the skin is torn or a bone gets broken, the body knows how to repair the damaged cells, returning the injured area to its original state.  When the body is stressed , however, it goes into ‘flight or fright’ mode and is unable to give its energy to restoration and repair.   This is the Sympathetic Nervous System.  It produces hormones such as adrenalin and cortisol preparing it for attack or escape and distracting it from maintaining the healthy blueprint.

In contrast, when the body is relaxed it enters the Parasympathetic Nervous System which allows for improved digestion and repair.  Energy healing encourages the body to enter this state and to redirect its energies back to creating a state of wellbeing.  This makes it a highly effective and complementary therapy which can be used for a wide range of issues.  It also has no negative side effects.  For example it can be used to support:

  • the immune system Ÿ
  • cell repair
  • detoxification Ÿ
  • enzyme function
  • oxygen uptake Ÿ
  • absorption of nutrients
  • wound repair Ÿ
  • pain relief
  • balancing Ÿ
  • release of endorphins
  • a sense of wellbeing and calm

Research has shown that “horses are sentient beings…reflecting various emotional states when stressed or happy” – Ellen Kaye Gehrke, Ph.D.

Gehrke and her team studied Heart Rate Variability (HRV) and discovered that when they put a horse together with a human:

“The horses perceived, in the moment, coherent or incoherent human HRV and began reflecting that human HRV in their own behavior. It became apparent that the horse’s heart rate would synchronize with the human’s”

This has profound implications for the horse-human bond.  Horses pick up on what we are feeling and their behaviour mirrors those feelings back to us.  For this reason it can be very beneficial for people to share an energy healing session with their horse.  Not only will it help them both to feel relaxed and promote wellbeing, it will also enhance the bond of love and trust between them, allowing them to work more effectively as a team.

If this sounds like something that would be of interest to you, please contact me for further information or to book a session:

email: robyn@equenergy.com

mobile: 07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: equenergy.com

 

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Having known what it is to feel small, powerless and restricted, I’m passionate about helping people to create a more positive, uplifting and fulfilling life experience. Coming out of that grey, dull world and into one that is alive with colour is amazing and I believe that this can be achievable for every one of us.

I have also suffered from various health issues in the past which have made me passionate about creating a more positive and healthy life by exploring the concept of Wellbeing: what this means for you as an individual and how to achieve it.

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