Apologies that my blog is a little late this week. It was a very busy week with appointments and also preparing for a bespoke 1:1 workshop yesterday on Energy Healing for animals. It was perfect timing to be offering this as today marks the start of Healing Awareness Week!
Energy Healing is a topic that is very close to my heart as
it has been a huge part of my journey, particularly over the last 10 years or
I had reached a stage in my life where I was feeling
miserable, lost and alone. At first, I
didn’t even realise this because I had cut myself off from my feelings as a
kind of coping strategy. I suppose this
worked for a while, but I soon realised that if things didn’t change, I was
going to make myself ill.
I started reading and looking around for ways to make things
better. Initially I was looking for
external ‘fixes’, but I quickly discovered that these weren’t really addressing
the deep need within me. I continued
exploring, as if following a trail of breadcrumbs, just going from one step to
the next, seeing where it would lead me.
The first course I found was Reiki Level I. Suddenly I felt that I had found a path that resonated for me! It gave me a renewed sense of hope and direction and also of purpose – that I could develop the tools I needed for myself, but also that I might be able to offer this to others too.
I went on to complete Level II, and from there to studying with the Healing Trust. This training covered a wide range of wellbeing related topics, including anatomy and physiology, the energy of colour and techniques for releasing old hurts and traumas. I completed my case studies and sat the exam and after 2 years of learning and practice I became a qualified Healer Member of the Trust.
Alongside this I was working on my personal development and exploring how I would like to use these newly developed skills. My journey was reconnecting me with my love of Nature and animals and so I went on to study healing of animals – initially small animals and later a specialism in equine healing – with Liz Whiter of the Healing Animals Organisation.
This has been a wonder-full journey full of deep challenges,
incredible experiences and amazing people and animals. I have learnt so much and met such inspiring
I have gone on to add further tools to my kit, but working
with Energy still underpins all that I do.
I would define healing as:
“regaining balance of mind, body and / or emotions. It complements conventional medicine by treating the whole being.”
A completely natural form of therapy
Complementary to conventional treatment
It stimulates the body’s own healing processes by
the immune system
absorption of nutrients
release of endorphins
a sense of wellbeing and calm
Have you ever had a session of Energy Healing? If not, I can recommend it as a great way to relax and recharge, and to enable your body to enter its ‘Rest and Repair’ mode.
If you have any questions about Healing, or you’d just like
to know a bit more, then please get in touch:
As this last post of Stress Awareness Month, I thought I’d look at the wisdom that we hold within ourselves.
Our bodies know how to be well, it’s just that often we have disconnected from that wisdom. If we can find a way to reconnect and re-member that wisdom (as Neale Donald Walsch might say) then we can rediscover our balance and wellbeing.
cell of our being holds a blueprint of how it is designed to function and what
it needs in order to operate most effectively.
When we can tune in to this and be fully open to allowing it, then the
body will naturally find its way back to this pattern.
due to stress and the traumas that we experience in our lives (both ‘Big T’ and
‘little t’ traumas – and remember that these are very subjective and don’t always
‘make sense’ to our analytical minds) we can find ourselves not fully able to
trust this process and allow our bodies to find the balance they were designed
might have learnt patterns of behaviour which, originally, were put in place to
help us feel safe, but over time they have become stifling and restrictive,
actually stopping us from growing and becoming the happy, healthy, creative
being we were designed to be.
The rules and expectations of our society can also seem to place restrictions and demands on us, limiting our choices or shaping us into a particular role, which might not actually be where our Spirit would choose to be.
what can you do? How can you get back to
the wellbeing and ‘flow’ that you were made for?
believe that we can do this through reconnecting to Nature – both the Nature
all around us, and to our own true Nature, in all its forms and colours.
A wonderful and wise woman once shared a song with me that had a great impact on how I saw myself and the life I was living. Sadly, it was many years ago and I long ago lost the recording and don’t have a copy of the exact lyrics, but it was about how looking at the sunset reminds us that our life is supposed to contain all the colours. We weren’t designed for a bland, monochrome existence, but for one that is full of bright, vivid colour. This encompasses all the emotions, both the ‘safe’ and ‘acceptable’ ones, and also the ‘scary’ and ‘ugly’ ones. We need to embrace them all and learn how to be a good steward of them, so that they don’t end up controlling us on some subconscious level.
also think that it is very important to pay attention to the messages that we
give ourselves, both through our words, and our body language.
One simple example, in regards to vocabulary is this:
And for body language, consider this question:
we think that our body language comes from our feelings – and it does. But it can also work the other way round.
Our posture is part of a bio-feedback loop.
When our spine is straight and our shoulders down and back (comfortably, not forced) then our lungs have space and we can breathe more freely. Also, our heart centre is open.
When we slump, the opposite is true, and this is telling the body that we are not at our best in some way. It can encourage feelings of tiredness, anxiety and stress.
of the way that many of us spend our days: slumped in front of a computer
screen, or the TV, or staring at our mobile phone…
much is this contributing to our stress levels?
is why it’s so beneficial to take a break, stand up, move around, pay attention
to your posture and breath, and if possible, spend some time outdoors in
if you’re in a situation currently where you’re experiencing stress, anxiety,
chronic fatigue or dis-ease, then hang in there. You can still make the journey back to health
and wellbeing. As Anthony William, the
Medical Medium, says:
“It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been sick. You can heal. Always remember that and never forget it.”
initially wrote this blog early last week, but then something happened on
Thursday which prompted me to write this short edit. A friend that I deeply respect, told me that
she felt I wasn’t being honest with myself about my responsibility in the
situation I find myself with Dax, and that I was placing the blame on other
people. I would therefore like to print
an apology for anything I’ve said that has come across in this way. It was not my intention.
responsibility, this has made me think of the difference between ‘taking responsibility’ (in an empowering
way that leads to action) versus ‘taking
the blame’ – which is what, in hindsight, I think I was actually doing, leaving
me feeling overwhelmed and generally powerless.
I have recognised that this is something I need to address and so have
begun to take steps in this. This has
then enabled me to look more openly and closely at what’s been happening with
Dax and to take more constructive action in this too.
And now, back to my blog:
week I wrote about how I’ve been learning to bend so that I don’t break. A further step in this lesson for me is to
practice being able to ‘dance in the rain’ – ie, not to wish that there were no
storms in life, but rather to celebrate them, knowing that they bring valuable
teaching and that even when times are tough, I can still dance and make the
most of every moment. It’s also about
being able to be present with whatever is happening in the moment and to be comfortable,
even with being uncomfortable.
Getting to this point takes time and practice. We rarely manage it in any sustainable way the first time! But, like the baby learning to take its first steps, it’s a matter of getting up, dusting ourselves off and trying again.
all, that’s what life’s really about, isn’t it – experimenting, trying, finding
out what works and what doesn’t, repeating the former and discarding the latter
and continually refining and adapting.
When we make decisions and choices, we might think that we’re doing so from a purely logical, rational, analytical perspective but I’ve come to realise that there’s always an emotional element on some level. This is true for the simplest of choices, such as what we’re going to wear on a particular day, to what’s for dinner, to what car we want to buy. It’s even more true when we consider our responses to situations. These are determined by our thoughts and beliefs which are strongly coloured by our past experiences and our emotional state:
every situation, when we react rather
than make a conscious choice, we are
doing what we think will make us feel better / safer in that situation. However, when our perception is coloured by
fearful past experiences, these decisions will not help us to move forward. They can end up being a form of self-sabotage.
is why, when we want to grow, we need to become curious about what is
motivating our choices. To do this, we
need to develop our ‘emotional intelligence’ in order to gain a greater
understanding of what’s going on inside.
It can be a real challenge to face up to the things that we don’t like
about ourselves – the things that we don’t want others to see – and to be open
and honest about them. But when we can
do this with self-forgiveness and self-compassion it can be a very liberating
experience! Not only that, but it
enables us to support others in developing the same skills and so allow them to
find that same freedom.
imagine how wonderful that could feel:
to no longer be held by fear
to be free to experience the fullness of love, joy and
to be fully your self,
no longer needing to wear any masks
feel fully alive!
Of course, life still has its ups and downs. It still seems to throw us curve balls to keep us on our toes! But when we can learn to bend and to dance in the rain, we are much more able to adapt, flex and flow with these ‘plot twists’. We have greater clarity and insight on our own responses – and after all, these are the only things we have any control over.
It was very difficult for me to face the fact that we’d lost our
field shelter when it was destroyed by the recent storms. There was the financial pain – it had cost
about £4,000.00 and we can’t afford to replace it – and the thought of all the
wasted time and effort that my wonderful husband had put in to building it and
making it – we thought – storm safe. Not
only that, but I worried about the horses: their safety when it went over and
what they were now going to do for shelter.
Then I decided to look at the situation from a different
angle. Yes, we’d lost a lot of money,
but everyone was safe, and no-one had been injured, which was the most
Obviously, we had tried to stand against the force of Nature,
rather than go with it, and hadn’t realised how strong the winds could get in
that part of the field. So how might we
do things differently?
I looked around at the resources that we have here. The house is situated on a lower level than
the fields and between them there is an area of ‘unused’ land – rough grasses,
gorse bushes and some trees. It had
always been my plan to open this up to the horses and as I looked at it with
fresh eyes, I realised that there is a lot of natural shelter there, from trees
and the contours of the land.
So now I’m looking into making this area secure so that the
horses can access this natural
shelter. It will also provide them with
additional, interesting places to explore.
I’ve also ordered some Willow, to see if I can create a living
shelter for them. If it’s successful it
will have many benefits, including roots to further stabilise the land and drink
up some of the water which makes that part of the field a quagmire in the
winter. It will provide shoots that the
horses can nibble on – as long as they don’t eat until there’s nothing
left! Time will tell on that one…
This is what we hope to achieve:
If you’ve ever tried to create something like this, I’d be really interested to hear from you about how it went, and any tips that you can share!
If any of this has resonated with you and you’d like to learn more about developing your own emotional intelligence and resilience, and how to feel your way to the choices that are right for you, you might be interested in attending one of my workshops on how to ‘Feel Your Way from Stress into Flow’. Contact me for further details:
I’ve started to write this blog in my head so many times but
not yet had the opportunity to ‘put pen to paper’ – or as I do more often these
days, put fingertips to keys!
Each inner draft has seen the content shift and change, reflecting
my sense that everything around me is shifting and changing as we move from
winter into spring.
This has been very evident in the weather that we’ve been
experiencing this month.
The weekend of the 15th / 16th saw further storms with very strong winds. Sadly, after all the hard work and care that my wonderful husband put into repairing our field shelter, when the previous storm had put it on its roof, this time the wind took it, twisted it and ripped it apart beyond repair:
The very next day the sun came out and it hasn’t stopped shining since! We’ve had some truly glorious days and as the external storms have subsided, it has allowed some of the inner unsettled feelings to calm.
One of the factors contributing to my inner turmoil was the
fact that my non-horsey husband and Dax had a serious clash, resulting in Tim
saying that the horse had to go.
Tim is nervous around these big animals and Dax, being a
typical hand-reared horse, has little sense of boundaries. When he comes too close, Tim gets nervous and
Dax, being a sensitive animal, picks up on this and gets anxious in return. Sadly, his response to this is to get
defensive, which in his case means threatening with teeth. Tim tried to reinforce his space by pushing
Dax away, but Dax is a horse who just pushes back. This, understandably, left Tim feeling very
vulnerable and afraid for his safety.
I’ve actually found that Dax responds better when the
energies around him are kept calm. If he
starts to get a bit over excited, the best way to deal with it is to distract
him and to walk away, to give him the space to feel safe again and to calm himself. This can be challenging though when faced
with an apparently very angry horse!
The need to rehome this beautiful boy, who I had hoped would
be with us for the rest of his life, and who has taken a huge part of my heart,
has hit me hard.
Unfortunately, his owner is not in a position to take him
back and so I’ve been trying to find him a good and understanding home, as
otherwise he will have to be put to sleep.
However, I’m finding that this is far from an easy task when the horse
in question is a non-ridden 8-year-old gelding with some behavioural
issues. I’ve found it a very depressing and
frustrating process as everyone I’ve approached has said that they can’t take
him, but Tim is pressing for him to go.
But life goes on, even when sometimes it feels like it’s
falling apart, and this wonderful place, with its amazing energy, has been
working its healing magic on me.
On Thursday I went to a networking meeting in Monmouth where
Patricia Carswell spoke of her journey from working as a barrister in London,
through burnout and recovery to recreating herself as a freelance journalist
and top-class rower. She was then
diagnosed with an aggressive form of breast cancer but following surgery and
chemotherapy, is back and looking amazing.
Listening to her speak, helped to crystallise some thoughts
that have been running around in my head and I thought I’d share them
I’m coming to see, with much greater clarity, the value of flexibility. For many years I was someone who could have
been described as a ‘control freak’. I
liked to feel that I had a handle on each situation, and I needed to know where
things were going and what was going to happen next. I definitely didn’t like to feel out of
I thought that being ‘in control’ would be less stressful
and give me a greater sense of security.
However, particularly since moving here, I’ve realised that any sense of
‘control’ I had was just an illusion!
Also, that trying to hold on to that control was more stressful and left me feeling more overwhelmed and exhausted. It must have been very difficult for those
around me too!
I’m now coming to appreciate the value of being able to ‘bend’ and ‘flow’ rather than clinging rigidly to the things that I think will keep me safe. As Confucius said:
It’s funny that I’ve ‘known’ these things for a while in my
head, even believed them, but it’s as my wonderful boss from my first job used
to say: ‘It’s not until it makes that 10-inch drop from your head to your heart
that you really know it’.
I’d like to close with a quote that Patricia Carswell used at the end of her presentation as I thought it was very poignant and ‘on point’:
This week’s blog is a little bit different, as it is an invitation to an event that I’ll be hosting next month.
Having moved to Wales at the end of last year, I’m very excited to be relaunching Equenergy with an Open Day to showcase our new site on the Blorenge, near Abergavenny!
Equenergy has been offering Health and Wellbeing therapies and coaching to people and animals for several years now and as soon as I saw this new site, I fell in love with the space, and knew that it was perfect for expanding my practice.
I’m passionate about supporting individuals in their journey towards creating a life of greater wellbeing and joy. I do this by:
holding a space where they can reconnect with Nature
focusing on getting back in touch with their inner wisdom and balance in order to live in a way that feels authentic and true.
This is what gives us that sense of peace, integrity and congruence that allows us to feel comfortable in our own skin.
What will you get from the Open Day?
It’s a chance to come and experience a little of what I offer. There will be the opportunity to
have a Reiki taster,
go on a tour of the site (my work is all about nature and feel, so there will be a walk around the woods and fields, and also the chance to see the room I use for sessions and workshops)
see the horses (one of the sessions I offer is to experience mindfulness in the presence of these amazing animals. I also offer wellbeing sessions for animals, primarily horses, and equine massage)
Who is this Open Day for?
I work primarily, but not exclusively, with women, focusing on those who are experiencing stress, overwhelm and / or chronic health conditions. I also support those who are feeling lost; those who, on the surface, have a good life, but who have a sense that something is missing and they don’t know how to ‘make it better’. Together we explore ways to reconnect with our inner wisdom, our emotions and the information and direction that they offer, in order to create a life of more fulfilment and joy.
I also work with animals – of any shape and size, though my main passion is horses and so this open day is also aimed at anyone who cares for an animal and would like to explore ways to support their health and wellbeing, and ways to develop an even deeper relationship and connection.
What will you come away with?
This Open Day is to give you a greater understanding of what I offer and how this support people and animals to feel more in tune with who they really are, to live congruently and with authenticity in order to feel comfortable in their own skin and to experience a greater sense of inner peace and ease.
It’s also the chance to have some time-out for yourself, to experience the peace and healing stillness of this place, and to have a taster of Reiki with me.
Date: Saturday 23 March
Time: 10.00am – 3.00pm
Venue: Equenergy, Rose Cottage, Oak Lane, Llanellen NP7 9LD
*Entry is free and there is some space for parking available on site.
NB: Please be aware that there are steep slopes and stony / muddy areas at the venue and so it might not be suitable for those with limited mobility. If you have any questions about this, please feel free to contact me (details below).
If you would like to take the tour of the new site, it is advisable to bring strong, waterproof footwear, and clothes suitable for the weather on the day.
I came across a post on Facebook the other day that shared a wonderful TED Talk given by Susan David (The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage). That, and some conversations I’ve had recently, got me thinking about why I do what I do.
Susan grew up in South Africa during apartheid which affected her deeply. I spent my childhood in Belfast at the height of The Troubles and while I was fortunate not to see some of the worst of the fighting, it was an ever present background that coloured my younger years. Perhaps that’s why I am so passionate about getting in touch with our feelings and learning how to work with them in a positive and creative way.
One of the lasting memories of my time in Northern Ireland is the banner that used to hang across the City Hall which read ‘Belfast Says No!’. That spoke volumes to me of the rigidity of people’s thinking and the lack of openness that was keeping so many trapped in their fear and pain.
And I think this is just as true on an individual level.
In her talk, Susan says that she has come across so many people who say they don’t want to carry on feeling the way they do. They are referring to emotions such as anger, sadness, disappointment and fear. But Susan believes that these are ‘dead people’s goals‘ because only people who have died no longer feel these emotions.
We generally live in a society that pushes for a positive outlook and has little time for what it has come to label ‘negative’ emotions. (See my earlier blog series: ‘Positive thinking – is it always a good thing?’) I think this has forced many people into feeling that they have to play a particular role, and to disconnecting from their true feelings, causing a part of them to ‘die’ inside. From this place we can easily feel lost, overwhelmed and hopeless.
Susan talks about the women who are told that they ‘shouldn’t’ feel angry, or the person who’s been diagnosed with cancer being told to ‘just stay positive’. And of course there are the commonly held beliefs such as ‘boys don’t cry‘. But what does this do to someone who is feeling angry, or who is reeling from hearing that they have a potentially life-limiting illness? And how are boys – and men – supposed to deal with feelings of hurt and loss? This creates a society of individuals who feel unheard, unseen and forced to wear an uncomfortable and ill-fitting mask, just to be accepted.
So what happens to the real feelings? Do they go away?
No, they just get pushed down, go underground, where they grow and fester.
And we can start to use outside things to cover them up – or push them down and keep them buried – eg food, alcohol, busy-ness and other ‘addictions’.
But deep down, our body still knows that all is not well. E-motions are meant to flow. The word itself gives us a clue to the fact that these feelings are energy in motion. They are there for a reason – they are our barometer; our guide to what is working for us and what isn’t; data that we can use to find our way to a life of joy and wellbeing. In an ideal world we would explore these emotions and process the data they offer in order to make the choices that best serve us. But when we push the feelings down, when we haven’t developed the tools to learn from them and grow, then they get stuck, magnify and lead to dis-ease.
I heard, just yesterday, about a friend of a friend, who is living a life of chronic anxiety. Even when there is nothing immediately obvious for her to worry about, it’s as if she has to find something to fret over. She has become so accustomed to this way of being and her body craves the adrenaline and the energy it brings, but her health is suffering and she’s no longer able to cope with many of the things that she used to do, including her work. Even just leaving the house has become an ordeal for her.
I believe that this happens when we don’t face the truth of what we’re feeling. For a while we can get by behind the mask, but as Susan says in her talk, it’s not sustainable. Like one of those stress balls, we might be able to push our feelings down in one place, but they will generally then surface somewhere else.
As I said above, our feelings serve a purpose. Not only do they give us valuable information but they can be our motivation to make things better.
I think that a large part of the problem is that society labels our feelings and conditions us into certain expectations of behaviour and conduct. However emotions are not ‘good’ or ‘bad’, ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, they just are. You feel how you feel. It’s what you do with those feelings that’s important. If we could stop beating ourselves up when we feel certain emotions then a large part of their hold over us would be gone. Instead we could choose to look at things from a more objective viewpoint and with the perspective of a beginner’s curiosity.
We need to start by exploring the nature of the feeling. Giving a name to the emotion – being as accurate and un-dramatic as we can – is the first step in developing Emotional Intelligence. When we do this, we know exactly what it is that we’re dealing with which helps us to move on to the next step…
What is going on behind the feeling?
Why am I feeling this way?
What triggered this feeling?
Is there an unmet need here?
What resources can I draw on to meet that need?
We can use journaling, somatic dialogue (tuning in to a part of the body and asking it about how it’s feeling and what it might be holding), art, movement and other techniques to explore the many layers of our being in order to tune in to our inner wisdom.
This can be a very empowering process but with that comes responsibility. We need to be conscious in the way that we use this new knowledge about ourselves. The aim is to show up with authenticity, integrity and even vulnerability and to allow and encourage others to do the same. (You might like to explore Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg for further ideas on this.)
If you are someone who has wanted the painful feelings to stop, or you feel that you’re wearing a mask, and you feel ready to explore a different way, then please get in touch. I’m very happy to have a no obligation chat to discuss ways that you can tap in to all the wonderful resources that you hold within yourself.
The last couple of weeks have felt pretty tough here at Equenergy. This is my first year of being a horse carer, having welcomed Dax back in May last year, and Rika in October when we moved to Wales and got our own land. It has been a steep learning curve!
About a week ago, on Friday, we had the first snow of the season and, obviously, the first since our move. Suddenly I was having to feed the horses much more hay, as they were unable to access any grass. We were already running a little low, and had arranged an order for the Sunday anyway, but it quickly became clear that there probably wouldn’t be enough to get us through the remaining day, night and morning before we picked up more supplies.
I went through uncomfortable feelings of guilt at not being better prepared and getting into a situation where the horses might suffer because of my lack of foresight…
This came on top of me already feeling rather low, mostly due to exhaustion, which was the result of a combination of factors:
the short days which never seem to have enough daylight to get everything done
the relentless-seeming round of daily poo picking; often in wind, rain, mud and semi-darkness at this time of year
juggling appointments, working on the house, business stuff (such as updating my website, networking, etc) and caring for the animals
still not having any proper internet, phone or TV connection
the time it takes to get things done because of the above challenges.
As you might have spotted, reading the above list, another drain on my energy has been the high level of expectation that I place on myself!
At times I’ve felt rather alone and vulnerable, and it was at one of these moments that I received some comments on a post that I’d made on Facebook. From the perspective of this low point they hit a nerve and felt like criticism. I was tempted to hide away and feel sorry for myself, but instead I decided it would be more productive to take a step back and look at the situation with a more objective view.
Doing this I quickly realised that the comments were far from being critical. They were actually just someone who cared deeply about an issue, expressing their thoughts. However their message threw a spotlight on a need in me that I hadn’t been addressing (old insecurities about how people see me and being ‘good enough’), which was bringing up old hurts and leaving me experiencing emotional discomfort. I could see that this provided a great opportunity for me to work on this inner pain in order to release it, taking a further step in setting myself free from the things that hold and restrict me. I explored the sensations I was experiencing and used them to identify where I needed to change my thoughts to be more supportive.
There are a variety of ways that we can do this kind of exploration:
talking with a friend or a professional coach / therapist
I personally used EFT (emotional freedom techniques, or ‘tapping’) as this helps to reduce painful emotions, meaning that I could look at things with greater clarity
I’ve had to remind myself, too, that change is often painful, as it pushes us out of our comfort zone. This is true, even when we were the ones who decided to make the change. Even when we know in our heads what to expect, the raw reality, and the unknown duration of the discomfort, can make it hard to keep going, and to keep trusting that we’ve made the right choices. This is especially true when we’re feeling tired, alone or unsupported.
Often when we’re feeling low, our inner critic goes into overdrive. I had to remind myself that this part of me is just trying to keep me safe, but in actual fact it’s made up of thoughts and beliefs that are untrue, or at least greatly exaggerated, and viewed from a negative bias. But I am able to choose my thoughts and beliefs, which in turn impacts on my perceptions, emotions, behaviours and the outcomes I experience. If I choose to focus on more positive, uplifting, optimistic thoughts, then I will experience more supportive, hopeful feelings, leading to behaviours which are more likely to produce the outcomes that I desire.
Sometimes we can get stuck in a negative cycle, particularly when we’re feeling run down, which is why it’s so important to take care of ourselves, doing our best to get quality rest, eat healthily, spend time outdoors in the fresh air and engage in exercise that we enjoy. It’s also important to reach out for help when we need it. Things can feel too big to face alone, but with another pair of hands / eyes, suddenly they seem much more manageable. Also, we are social creatures. We need to feel connected. When this is missing from our lives, the world can feel like a very big, scary and lonely place. Even if you feel that no-one can help, it’s still worth reaching out, as even doing something as simple as meeting a friend for a cup of coffee can bring a bit of brightness to your day and make things seem much less bleak.
Taking action in this way has also helped me to remember the many ‘highs’ of our new life here in Wales, and having horses with us. It’s so lovely to be able to spend time with them, either connecting through activities, or just being in their presence and feeling their calming, grounding energy. I’ve been seeing some subtle changes in Dax, where he seems to be processing things and being less reactive. He can tend to show some fear aggression, reverting to inappropriate behaviours – such as biting and pushing – when he feels anxious, but having started some clicker play with him, I’ve seen how he’s using his brain to find other ways to approach situations. Doing this in a safe environment seems to be giving him confidence in other areas of his life as well. Occasionally he seems to take a backwards step, but Rome wasn’t built in a day, and it can take time to change habits that have been held for long periods of time so I just need to remain patient and keep remembering all the good things in him so that he can see these too and step into them more fully.
Another ‘high’ is that Rika is opening up more and more each day. When she first arrived here, everything was so new for her. She’d been taken away from her people, her herd and the environment that was familiar to her. It has taken her a while to find her feet but she now regularly approaches us to say Hello, or for a cuddle or a scratch. She’s such a gentle and graceful creature that it’s a joy to spend this time with her!
I’m also deeply grateful for this amazing space all around us. The landscape is so beautiful and the light changes almost in every moment! We are surrounded by birdsong from early morning to well into the evening and it’s magical to watch the onward march of the seasons.
If you are experiencing painful emotions that feel like they’re taking over your life, and you’d like to explore some constructive ways to address the underlying issues so that you can reconnect with your balance, joy and wellbeing, then please get in touch for a no obligation chat.
PS For those of you wondering about the horses and their hay: I rang our lovely hay man, Gwyn, on the Friday and he happily gave us a couple of bales the next day which easily got us through to Sunday when we collected our order. This reminded me again that worry is unproductive and that when I reach out, help is there, supporting me through the ‘dramas’ of my life and showing me that, in fact, all is well in the end 🙂