Positive thinking – is it always a good thing? (part 4/4)

In my work I pay close attention to people’s beliefs and their self-talk.  Often the beliefs were created around a trauma they experienced at some point in their life.  This is a natural survival instinct, where the mind tries to make sense of what happened and to help us to avoid similar painful situations in the future.  In that moment, and possibly for some time afterwards, this can be helpful in keeping us safe, but if it then starts to cause discomfort, or even dis-ease, then it is no longer of benefit to our wellbeing.

Self-talk is very powerful and sadly it’s often our worst critic!  Many people speak to themselves in ways they wouldn’t dream of talking to their family or friends.  Although you might not be consciously aware of that little voice in your head, a part of you is still listening and believing whatever you’re telling yourself.

Remember that:

            so:

So, in summary:

  • Be Positive
  • If you can’t be positive in this moment then be Aware
  • Use that awareness to help you Rediscover your positive

 

I love holding the space for people to explore whatever is going on for them so that they can look for ways to move closer to their own love, wisdom and power.  Each client is unique but they are all amazing, wonderful people with so much to give – no exceptions!  They just need to reconnect with this truth.

Using META-Health I work with clients to discover what their symptoms are showing them about what isn’t working well in their lives and how they can then turn this around.  Where they are feeling stuck we can use a combination of energy therapies to help shift things back into flow, allowing the body to bring its own healing processes back on line.

If this is something you would like to explore for yourself, please get in touch.  My contact details are:

              email:              robyn@equenergy.com

              mobile:           07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(You can read the full article here.)

Positive thinking – is it always a good thing? (part 3/4)

Last week I looked at the benefits of being ‘selfish’ but how does this relate back to what I said at the beginning about Positive Thinking?

To me it’s about being open and honest with ourselves and – where it’s appropriate – with those around us.  If you’re having a challenging day, admit it!  Don’t just try to put on a brave face if inside you feel like crying or tearing your hair out.  Instead, explore what you’re feeling and what it’s telling you.  An uncomfortable feeling means that something in your actions or your thoughts is not being true to your deepest self.  Is there a need there that you’ve been ignoring?  How could you do things differently so that you can address the need?

Looking at things this way means that you can take responsibility for your own feelings, and also for addressing them from your own power and wisdom.  Your body really does know what it needs, and you can access this by learning how to listen to the signals that it gives you.

This kind of ‘selfishness’ means that we no longer need to use behaviours to try to get others to meet our needs.  Instead we can take care of ourselves and give permission to others to be ‘selfish’ in their turn.  The wonderful paradox is that we all then have more capacity for unconditional love and support for those around us!

When we can view things from this open, honest, ‘selfish’ perspective then we can objectively look at our thoughts and where they’re coming from.  We can also have a deeper understanding of how they influence our interpretation of events and shape our beliefs.  With this awareness we can explore our thoughts to see which ones serve us, and how we can build on those, and which ones do not serve us.  Becoming aware of the unhelpful ones means that we can start to, gently, interrupt the negative pattern by looking for a thought that makes us feel better and practising that instead.

 

If you’d like to talk about anything that I’ve raised here, please get in touch:

            email:              robyn@equenergy.com

            mobile:           07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(You can read the full article here.)

 

Positive thinking – is it always a good thing? (part 2/4)

In last week’s post I started looking at why positive thinking alone might not be enough.

Instead, I think the answer lies in becoming more aware of:

  • our thoughts and self-talk
  • the impact of what we listen to / read / watch
  • the influence of those we spend our time with
  • the effect that all of these have on our lives

Many of us are now paying more attention to our diet: reading labels, researching ingredients and finding ways to eat more healthily, in order to stay well.  Many also try ‘detoxing’ and ‘cleansing’.  This can bring great benefits but I believe that we need to look at the wider picture.

Changing what we put into our bodies is a good start but we also need to look at the environment in which we live:

  • is it healthy?
  • does it make you happy?

            Or:

  • do you dread going in to work each day?
  • at the end of the day are you exhausted / stressed / anxious / irritable / frustrated? 

            Remember:

Treat yourself like the beautiful flower that you are.

And if you’re worried that I’m encouraging you to be selfish… I am!  It’s like that thing they always say in the pre-flight safety message:

 

In fact, if we are not listening to – and providing for – our own needs how can we:

  1. expect anyone else to do this for us?
  2. have anything to give to anyone else?

 

On the other hand…

If we do take care of our own needs, and do what makes us happy, we will have so much to give!

In next week’s post I’ll look at how this relates to what I said at the beginning about Positive Thinking.

 

If you’d like to talk about anything that I’ve raised here, please get in touch:

            email:              robyn@equenergy.com

            mobile:           07980 669303

 

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(You can read the full article here.)

 

Positive thinking – is it always a good thing? (part 1/4)

Our lives seem to be full of contradictions!  On the one hand we’re bombarded by news that is often negative and full of doom and gloom, while on the other we’re encouraged to be positive, smile and avoid negative thoughts for the sake of our health.

So what’s the answer?!

Well, first of all let’s look at why positive thinking can bring great benefits.  The cycle goes like this:

The thoughts that we think create the perspective from which we look at things.  This influences the filters through which we interpret the world around us.  This determines our experiences, which help to form our beliefs about that world.  Our beliefs are what our thoughts are based upon, and so the cycle continues…

Obviously if we think positive thoughts, and can carry this on round the cycle, then we will be happier than if we are plagued by negative thoughts, however it’s not quite that simple for most of us.

When we’re surrounded every day by news of terrorist attacks, rising incidence of serious health conditions, fears around the financial climate, Trump’s presidency, or Brexit, or the recent fire in the tower block in London… it can be a real challenge to think positive thoughts, let alone to believe them.

In fact it can lead to cognitive dissonance:

the mental stress or discomfort experienced by an individual who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values at the same time, or is confronted by new information that conflicts with existing beliefs, ideas, or values.”  Wikipedia

The results can be anxiety, overwhelm and chronic ill health.  In fact many of the dis-eases that we experience in our society are due, at least in part, to stress.

In next week’s post I’ll look at another approach which might serve us better.

 

If you’d like to talk about anything that I’ve raised here, please get in touch:

            email:              robyn@equenergy.com

            mobile:           07980 669303

You can also see more on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(You can read the full article here.)

A META-Health example – sinusitis (part 2)

Last week I described a ‘stinking’ situation where I was felt intense jealousy.  For me this was unexpected, dramatic, isolating and I had no coping strategy (a UDIN or Trauma Conflict (2).  This put me into stress (3) resulting in a decrease in my sense of smell.  How did this go on to become sinusitis?

I recognised that this jealousy was a response coming from fear and a sense of ‘lack’ within me, rather than that the other person didn’t deserve their good fortune.  I knew that it was time for me to ‘walk my talk’ and so I did some energy work around what I was feeling and was able to shift my perspective to one of being able to celebrate the other person’s success.  I was also able to feel gratitude that we live in an abundant Universe, meaning that this person’s success does not mean that I have lost out.  On the contrary, it proves that what I am aiming for is possible.

This shift (4) allowed me to move into the regeneration phase (5,6 & 7) where my body needed to undo the changes it had made in the stress phase.  In the ‘exudative’ phase (5) it needed to clear out all the old cells that had been discarded to reduce my sense of smell.  My symptoms were pain in my sinuses due to an intense swelling and ulceration of the mucosa, along with a runny nose.  In my case the issue also related to my sense of ‘territory’ and so my Kidney Collecting Tubules were also affected, creating a ‘syndrome’ and resulting in sinusitis.

The Healing Peak (6) for this was sneezing which was then followed by the ‘restitutive’ (7) phase when the ulcers heal and the body returns to balance and good health (8).

If you would like to know more about how META-Health could help you find the root cause behind a dis-ease so that this can then be cleared allowing the body to return to better health, please contact me:

email:              robyn@equenergy.com

mobile:           07980 669303

Skype:             by appointment only to ensure that I am in the office and available to take your call.  Please contact me to arrange a date and time

 

(You can read the full article here)

A META-Health example – sinusitis (part 1)

As a further example of using META-Health to understand what’s going on in the body, I’ll share with you another personal story.

I recently experienced an episode of sinusitis and it didn’t take me long to get to the bottom of what was going on!  My inner dialogue and vocabulary gave it away immediately, but I will start by looking at the tissue involved and working from there.

In this example, the relevant tissue is the sinus mucosa, the mucus secreting cells lining my sinuses.  The brain relay for this tissue is the cerebral cortex so the themes are smelling (social), evaluation, recognition, or a “stinking” conflict.

The emotions behind issues here are around uncertainty or disgust, with thoughts such as:

  • This stinks.
  • I can’t bear to smell this situation anymore.
  • Something is getting strongly on my nerves.

The META-meaning is therefore:

  • My nose provides me with all the air and information I need.
  • When I don’t like what I smell, I can change it or create a distance.

I realised that I had been feeling jealous of someone and part of me was saying, “This isn’t fair – it stinks“.  This was my UDIN – a situation which for me was:

  • Unexpected
  • Dramatic
  • Isolating
  • and I had No Coping Strategy

which pushed me into the stress phase.  Here my body didn’t want to face (smell) the (stinking) situation and so it started to reduce the cells in my sinuses so that this sense would be less effective.

At this point I didn’t have any symptoms of ill health.  My sense of smell would have been reduced but I was barely aware of it.

In next week’s post, I’ll look at why I started to get symptoms and how my body then went on to get well.

If you would like to know more about how META-Health could help you find the root cause behind a dis-ease so that this can then be cleared allowing the body to return to better health, please contact me:

email:              robyn@equenergy.com

mobile:           07980 669303

Skype:             by appointment only to ensure that I am in the office and available to take your call.  Please contact me to arrange a  date and time

 

(You can read the full article here)

What is ‘META-Health’ and how can it help me get well? (Part 5)

So, having looked at the process of META-Health, and a personal example from my own life, how can this help you in your healing journey?

My first step in working with a client is to ask for their ‘timeline’.  This is basically a chronological account of all the Significant Emotional Events in their life.  I personally like people to write this covering all the way from birth onwards as it can help me to detect repeating patterns and get a sense of the person, but in any case the timeline should go back to at least 3 years before symptoms appear.  I also need to know the person’s medical diagnosis, if they have one, and a list of any medications they’re taking, or have taken, for the issue.  It is also useful to know if they’ve tried other interventions and how helpful – or not – these were.

Once I know which tissue is affected I can work out which brain relay this relates to.  From this I can tell which stage they are at in the healing process:

It is then possible to work back to find the initial conflict (2).

Writing the timeline in itself can be very healing.  As one client said to me, it was amazing to put her life story down on paper and see it all in one place for the first time.  This was a kind of affirmation for her that she had, in fact, dealt with a lot in her life and that she was actually stronger than she had realised.  It can also be a very cathartic process to put down, in black and white, things that you might have been bottling up inside, or trying to push to the back of your mind.  This process helps you to look at things and to acknowledge them so that you can then start to process them in order to let go and to move on.

I often get the feeling that, in our society, we are encouraged to ‘move on’ before we’re ready.  As I said earlier, trauma is subjective, so other people might not appreciate the impact that an event has had on a person.  They might, with the best of intentions, want to encourage the person to ‘put it all behind them’ or to ‘think positively’ but this is not possible until the person has finished processing what happened.  Or perhaps it’s our own inner voice that is encouraging us to push everything under the carpet and carry on as if nothing has happened.  However, if we don’t listen to our inner needs, they will just start to get louder in order to be heard!

META-Health teaches great self compassion and understanding.  We can truly begin to see that we are doing the best we can with the resources available to us in a given situation.  Also, our bodies don’t make mistakes.  If we’re experiencing symptoms or discomfort, it’s just our body trying to let us know that something isn’t right, but if we listen and make some changes – meet the needs that are currently unmet – then the body will find its way back to balance and wellbeing again.

So, having identified the trauma, or ‘UDIN’, what next?  As part of a consultation I will look at all the layers of a the client’s life: physical, emotional, social and spiritual.  I will also consider their characteristics: do they tend to be primarily a visual, auditory or kinaesthetic person, for example.  Taking these things into consideration I then put together a suggested plan of action, to discuss with the client, to help them create the healthier, happier life they dream of.

This plan can draw on a range of different therapies depending on what is most appropriate for the person in their particular situation.  I personally offer a variety of energy therapies including Reiki / Energy Healing, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT / sometimes referred to as ‘tapping’) along with some nutrition, lifestyle and relaxation techniques and tips.  I am very happy to offer these as part of a client’s action plan and for them to continue to work with me if they choose.

In addition I have a wide network of colleagues offering other complementary holistic therapies that we can draw upon to create a full and rounded wellbeing package.

The steps to be taken and the time required to create a new and healthier life will depend on the person, their condition, the circumstances in which they find themselves and their level of commitment, however it doesn’t need to be ‘hard work’ and the journey is in itself something to enjoy and to learn from.  It is worth remembering that it has taken time for your body to get into dis-ease and it will take time to get back to wellbeing but at each step along the way you will see an improvement.  This process can also result in lasting change and a whole new perspective, helping you to better deal with any issues that you face in the future.

If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:

robyn@equenergy.com

07980 669303

Alternatively you can see more about what I do on my website: www.equenergy.com

 

(This post was taken from my article on META-Health.  You can read the full text here)